Why Should You Improve yourself?

Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap us all up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” We more often than not, think and believe that other people are better than us. - When in reality, those same people are more scared than we are.

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and think the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and weary of any effort at self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.

One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up to, even on the most sensitive topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “what is it about me you would like to see change”, “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when we’re together?” In this way, the other person will truly know that you are interested in improving yourself. Listen for comments and criticisms and with an Open Heart and an Open Mind, don’t give answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!” Do not make excuses. Open up your mind and heart as well.

Self improvement makes us better people, and puts us in the position to inspire other people to improve too. Therefore it is important that before telling other people how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement.

Stop thinking of yourself as a second-rate person, forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them. Even the bible let us know that “For we dare not class ourselves or compare ourselves with those who commend themselves. But they, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise” 2 Cor 10:12. NKJV

We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life needs not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting out to the whole world that you are perfect or that you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.